Mia Hewett Minisode Transcript
Women Innovating Networking Growing Scaling – that’s WINGS … I’m Melinda Wittstock, my mission is to help women take flight to soar to the success of our dreams in business and in life– and create and grow businesses in alignment with our passion and purpose.
Today on our Mentoring Minisode of Wings of Inspired Business … we talk about why there is always opportunity, even in a crisis like the coronavirus pandemic, and why a slowdown doesn’t have to be a meltdown. Right now, it’s a great time to learn how to self-govern our emotional state and let go of emotions and fears that don’t serve.
Here with us today to provide her insights and inspiration is …
Mia is a serial entrepreneur helps purpose-driven entrepreneurs stop secretly struggling and live in alignment with their dreams so that they can scale to 6 and 7-figures … the fast way.
Mia is the founder of Aligned Intelligence™, a methodology that removes all blind spots, fear, anxiety, and self-doubt. And if ever there was a time in the midst of the coronavirus pandemic and all the very real fears many of us are feeling … Mia shares specific advice on how to best not only to cope… but to prosper in times of adversity.
She says her Aligned Intelligence method allows her clients to make accurate decisions, work smarter, not harder, so they maximize their results in less time, feeling “free to be Me” living the life they’ve always known they were meant for! Mia is a 7-figure entrepreneur running businesses in the brick and mortar and online sectors; she’s also an international speaker, and a world-class business coach.
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And now to the inspiring Mia Hewett.
When Mia was in her 30s, she had built a multi-million dollar company, her kids were happy, she had a gorgeous house, and still, she didn’t feel like she was good enough. So, she did what many entrepreneurs do in that moment: She devoured personal development books, took courses, hired some of the best coaches in the world. Yet she says no one could help her figure out what she was missing. She realized that the answer wasn’t outside of herself at all, but within her. In healing her emotions. Since then she’s helped hundreds of entrepreneurs and she is sharing all her secrets in her new book, “Meant For More.” The book explains how to stop secretly struggling, awaken your full potential, and discover the Truth about who you really are.
Today we talk about where to find inspiration within during the coronavirus pandemic – including the gifts that can come from adversity – if only we’re open to seeking and hearing the inspiration.
Melinda Wittstock: Mia, welcome to Wings.
Mia Hewett: Thank you. So great to be here.
Melinda Wittstock: I’m excited to talk to you too, and amid everything going on and all the uncertainty around that Coronavirus. It’s so de-stabilizing, so many people are so fearful. Just the uncertainty is so difficult for people. In all of that, is there any inspiration to be found? What are the things that are inspiring you right now in your business.
Mia Hewett: I’m going to preface this with saying that I’ve been an entrepreneur for 31 years, so the reason I say that is I’ve gone through so many different market cycles, right?
Melinda Wittstock: Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Mia Hewett: And the reason I want to share that first is to really help people, help your clients that come on here, your prospects that come on here to really feel the certainty of… the truth is that there is always opportunity. It feels like it doesn’t. I just put out this whole thing on, for my own community talking about how a slowdown doesn’t have to be a meltdown. Right? And, the most important thing about that… I get that it’s scary. I’m not at all, at all pretending that it’s not scary for people and that there’s this lot of uncertainty, but what I really want to help people understand, although that is definitely valid to feel that way, because they feel this uncertainty, this feeling of basically losing control, like you don’t have control of something which is really at the heart of what people are feeling and so although that is valid, it’s really important not to mistake it from the truth.
Mia Hewett: So what do I mean by that? So what’s important to understand is the news is a big business. So, they make money based on eyeballs, which means how many people can they get to watch their news depends on successful they are in advertising dollars. So why is that really important? And again, I’m not saying this as a message to be meant for any kind of medical advice or anything like that. You definitely want to check with your doctors before taking any action. But what I’m really wanting to point out here is they’re not going to shine the light on the 100,000 people who have been infected and are no longer infected and recovered. They’re not going to do that. They’re going to shed the light on the 4700 people who haven’t. Right?
Mia Hewett: The reason this is really important is because it’ll be skewed. So what is really the most important thing that… Yes, it’s important to be informed, but what’s really important that I really stress to my entrepreneurs who really want to live their potential is you really… This is an opportunity, a time for you to really learn how to self-govern your emotional state. So, often time, Melinda and I know you get this, is that people will often come to me and they think the problem they have in their business is that they don’t have the right business strategy. When the truth is, the truth not what they think it is, is it’s not in the strategy, although yes, we can give them a strategy. But what has people self-sabotage is not because they don’t know a strategy, it’s because they haven’t learned how to self-govern. What happens when they don’t self-govern, their emotions, they feel like they either wallow in them or they feel like they’re being controlled by them.
Melinda Wittstock: Oh gosh, it’s so true that in business as entrepreneurs, we do learn that. I mean, to be successful, you get so many things thrown at you that are beyond your control and you learn pretty quickly, hopefully, that you can’t control all of it. But, what you can control is your reactions and what triggers you. It’s always an opportunity to let stuff go that doesn’t serve. Right?
Mia Hewett: 100%. 100%.
Melinda Wittstock: All those kind of… All those sub-conscious fears. All of that. When we’re in a pandemic, we get triggered. We get the amygdala on the brain going, we get all that stuff happening. You know, I hear you about the news. It’s really difficult to know what to believe.
Mia Hewett: Exactly. Exactly. And because they’re going to shine the light on the worst. They’re not saying that the… They don’t really… I heard a story that there was a… because the people who are most at risk are the people that are over 60 years old that already have bad health problems. Most people, it will just feel like a mild version of the flu, but the people at risk are those that already have their immune system isn’t strong. They already have health issues and they’re over 60. There was an incredible story about a 90 year old woman who went through it and recovered. I wish they would shine the light on that woman because I would like to know as… because it’s going to show exactly what I’m telling people. I want to know her thought process. I want to know how she made it [inaudible 00:05:29] because I can actually give you the exact steps for people on how to do this. So, I really do give actionable steps on exactly how to self-govern and how to find that feeling place of what you’re wanting of certainty. I really do do that. But, I would love to interview that woman because I can promise you this, she’s doing what I’m telling people to do even if she didn’t know how she was doing it.
Melinda Wittstock: So much of it is mindset. I remember my dad telling me he never got sick, ever. He also lived into his 90s, but he never got sick. I remember asking him as a little girl, how come you never get sick. And he said because I don’t believe in it.
Mia Hewett: Yes. I mean, is that not the clear… That is such a great example of being in alignment with your beliefs. Like really be in alignment with what you want, because what happens is… You’re touching on something brilliant here. What I tell my entrepreneurs is I want you to consider that just like for our bodies to be really healthy, we eat foods, we have to pee and poop. Right? So, we have to actually excrete out so that we don’t have toxins. We have to let go of the things that don’t serve us. Well, our emotional system, for it to be healthy, we have to allow for the emotion. What do I mean? That energy motion, the meaning the energy of our emotions to move through our bodies so that we can return to homeostasis.
Mia Hewett: When we don’t understand that, when we don’t understand that foundational process and we don’t understand what our emotions mean, what often times is because we’ve never been taught, what does it mean when we feel a negative emotion. Most often, what people do is they assume that there’s something wrong. So, they literally go, “Oh my gosh. I feel bad.” That means there’s something wrong with me, I’ve done something wrong or I’m going to do it wrong. Right? There’s some feeling of shame there or failure of like not doing it right. Because ultimately what the real concern is, like this is always at the bottom of it, this is the truth, is they don’t feel like they’re capable or that they know how or somehow that they feel like it’s out of their control.
Melinda Wittstock: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Absolutely. But we all have challenges all the time in business and in life. There’s always backdrops, there’s always challenging things. I like to de-stigmatize those. What are some of your challenges in your business in your life right now that you would share?
Mia Hewett: It’s fascinating to me… I love that question because I grew up poor, so originally my challenge used to be I didn’t understand people with money. Like I didn’t understand how to make money, I didn’t understand why those people had money and we didn’t have money. We were good people. I thought that my value had… like the value of what people bought had something to do with my self-worth, which is not true. But I had all these misconceptions and misunderstandings. Right? It wasn’t… What caused me to have a challenge was really that I had these misunderstandings and misconceptions, these things that felt valid but were not really true. So, what really has us… the reason I don’t struggle in business anymore is I really have cleaned all those up. I don’t have any belief… Which a belief is just a habit of thought that you keep thinking. I don’t have any habit of that, any belief that contradicts what it is that I’m wanting to do.
Mia Hewett: So because I don’t have any contradictions in me, I live in alignment with success. So success is really easy for me. Making money is really easy for me. Building wealth is really easy for me. But, I didn’t just get there in one fall swoop. I had to literally dismantle all those beliefs that I had picked up along my way and cleared them out. Like really clear the misunderstanding of each one. So, I would say… I don’t really have anything that I’m being challenged with right now. I will say, though, what was new to me… This was new to me. I’ve never struggled with health.
Mia Hewett: So, I don’t struggle inside of relationships. I have an incredible relationship, he’s my partner. We do our business together, so we work 24-7 together. We have an incredible fulfilling relationship. So, I don’t struggle in relationships. I don’t struggle in wealth and creating money and so forth and helping others create money. The health thing, what was interesting to me, I’ve never struggled with weight. I haven’t had that issue. It’s not been a thing for me. But what was interesting for me, for me to process is where I can really relate… because hear what I’m saying. It’s not that I haven’t struggled before in my life with those things, I’ve just healed those. I’ve really found where my misunderstandings were and healed those.
Mia Hewett: But, when it came to the health, the reason why I can talk to you about this now is because I had to clear that, like the very first time it hit and somebody started saying like… They started asking us to stay inside and so forth and all of a sudden I was like, wait a minute. I’ve never had to look at my health like this. I had to clear away, I had to sit down. I literally did this process. That’s why I gave the process that I did to all my people. I literally had to sit down, wait a minute, clear the… What was I making this mean? I realized that why I was concerned, scared, worried was because I was making it mean that there was a loss of control regarding my health.
Mia Hewett: So do you notice how it didn’t just jump context from like wealth now? Like now I’m talking about health and all of a sudden, every area where I don’t know if I… I didn’t really slow down to think about my beliefs on it was being challenged. Does that make sense Melinda?
Melinda Wittstock: Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, because we have these… it sets up a challenge or an opposition. I find that the biggest opportunities in life are often in those challenges, when you get triggered by something. You don’t even necessarily know what it was. It’s some old story you told yourself when you were five or something. Right? But, all you have to do is literally say whatever this is, I don’t need it. Like, thank you. Goodbye. It’s not serving me, I’m just going to let it go, and it’s actually that simple. It took me a long time to understand how simple that process actually is. I thought you had to do a lot of work to get there or whatever. But, it’s no. It’s like being conscious. It’s like, oh. I don’t need that. Okay.
Mia Hewett: Yes. I had to… Like for myself, you’re 100% right. The first thing I had to do was allow myself to process my emotions. Right? I had to validate what was my concern. So, I first validated it without judgment. I validated what I was feeling. Wow, I feel really weird, uncertain with my health. I’ve never had an issue with health, but I feel really weird right now. Okay, great. So, without judgment, I validated that’s how I’m feeling. But, just because it’s valid doesn’t make it true.
Mia Hewett: So then I had to go deeper and I had to get to the root cause. So the next step after we validate it and we acknowledge it, we want to really look at it and go, okay but is that really true? Am I really not capable of being with this? Is it really out of my control? Then I laughed. I was like, no. I’m sitting in my house. I have plenty of food. There’s nothing really happening right here. Like, yes it’s like online so we’re doing more things online. Yes, of course. I just laughed because I was like, I do have a way that I can totally be completely capable of how I’m responding to it.
Mia Hewett: So then I was like, okay. That’s kind of funny. So then once I was able to get there, now I’m taking it further. Because that… just because I’ve let go of the misunderstanding, I actually want to create a new emotional set point. I actually want to now build on that so I don’t want to stop too soon, so what I did then was like okay. So now, if I could be thriving during this experience in health, I wanted to thrive. Not just get by it and survive this experience, but if I could thrive during this experience and there would be a gift in this for me, what is the gift that I’m willing to get out of this experience?
Mia Hewett: Then I started brainstorming, and this is what I encourage everyone to do. Write down your top ten… Like whatever comes to your mind, drop it down. 10, five things that come. Whatever it is, write them all down and then pick the best ones and go execute on those by implementing them right away and start living them. That’s exactly what I did. I was like, you know what? This is such a great opportunity for me to slow down and really deepen my relationships. Really deepen them. So, we had this really cool thing we did, my partner and his daughter. He’s got a nine year old and we were like, what did you think… What are you making this mean? What am I making it mean? We all got validated and then we’re like okay. How do we want to feel? And it’s like everybody was like oh yeah. We want to feel like totally empowered and that our bodies are amazing.
Mia Hewett: So we did this incredible… My partner’s amazing, so he’s like okay. I have a breathing technique for that. So we did this incredible breathing technique and then we sent, like while we were breathing these deep breaths and then holding our breaths, we literally imagined all of our really strong blood cells being sent to all areas of our body and just really filling it up with thriving. It was just like the most awesome experience. Then, we’re like well, how did you feel? And then he’s like oh, I felt tingling in my feet. You know everybody got to share. It just became this really fun cool thing and then we ended up playing like four games of Uno.
Melinda Wittstock: Yeah, Uno’s a staple for me and my kids too. It’s a good one. But yeah, absolutely right. It’s how we choose to see it and I love that taking the opportunity at this time of coronavirus to really deepen relationships. I mean, it’s a chance to sort of be still. We don’t get enough stillness in our lives. It’s a chance to really be… To really get into alignment for people who are not. It seems like this year has that kind of energy anyway. It’s about clearing out what doesn’t serve, embracing what does. So, in all your years in business, Mia, if you could distill it down to three pieces of advice, specifically aimed at female founders and women in business. What would those three be?
Mia Hewett: For them to really thrive, right? To really be inspired. You know the Wings of Inspired Business. I would say it’s not going to be what people think. It’s going to sound counterintuitive, but I’m going to tell you the real truth of what I wish somebody would have told me a long, long time ago. The truth is that we’re never really afraid of the situation or the person. We’re always really afraid that we’re not capable. Learning how to process your emotions, giving yourself permission to feel. Letting go of that emotions are bad or good, right wrong, but really becoming curious about them.
Mia Hewett: Using our emotions as our guidance system to really uncover what is really stopping us. Then, so that instead of trying to hide or get rid of or like be embarrassed about whatever we’re feeling, to really be more authentic with ourselves and then in doing so, what happens to us is we instantly will feel relief and come right back into our power.
Melinda Wittstock: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Mia Hewett: If somebody would have told me that that was the key to the reason I am so successful, and I can be successful in any market… I always remember Jack Welch saying, the CEO of GE, he said “Never miss out on an opportunity like a good recession.”
Melinda Wittstock: Oh yeah. This is exactly the time when a lot of the best businesses are built.
Mia Hewett: That’s right, and right now this is the time that I’m moving money. Right? In the sense of this is the time where I’m buying. It’s always going to feel counterintuitive. Right? It’s like, what? What are you doing? So like the things that I’m encouraging my entrepreneurs to do, right. So if you had… If you were a brick and mortar business, how are you taking some of those things that you’re doing and putting them online? If you went out for coffee to meet your clients, how are you doing virtual coffee dates? Or, virtual dinner dates? If you are… Right now, everybody’s scared, they’re laying off some of their top people, right? This is the most opportune time because usually the people who are getting paid the highest are the people when the companies get scared. You can pick up really incredible people to be on your team. Right? There’s always opportunity inside of that.
Mia Hewett: What about helping your employees become amazing at networking and finding new business by giving them 100% commission? Right? Teaching them how to network. Or, what about focusing in on that 20% of your ideal clients, and them serving them way better. Like really getting into deepening that relationship with them. Hearing more of how you can really make their experiences even more amazing, their results even more amazing, which will just naturally generate more referrals. Right?
Melinda Wittstock: That we’re serving… there’s so many opportunities. I mean, I think this is really, really good advice because rather than just throwing up your hands and being a victim and saying oh well, it’s really crappy. There’s going to be a recession, oh well. You know? Which I think a lot of people will and do unfortunately react that way rather than looking for the silver linings because there are always silver linings.
Mia Hewett: Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. When other people are… When others are cutting expenses inside of like let’s say… And, I’m not saying not to eliminate waste. It’s a great time to slow down and go where are we just being sloppy in our finances? Where are we just having waste? So I really do believe it’s an opportunity to really look at where we’re wasting and eliminating waste but not necessarily cutting back on advertising. This is when we actually want to become more advertising, increase cash flow, really making sure you’re increasing your cash flow. So, it’s such a great time.
Mia Hewett: I’m not being Pollyanna about that. I really mean that in a way of doing the deeper work and then being with the emotions you’re afraid to feel. Then, really clearing out the misunderstanding so that you can really feel from power and then really ask yourself what from that alignment, what is the best thing that I could do right now?
Melinda Wittstock: Yeah, that’s so true. Mia, I could talk to you forever. What great advice though for everybody that they need to hear right now. So, I just want to… How can people find you and work with you?
Mia Hewett: Great, great. Well, I have a free gift just for your people. They can’t find it anywhere else because it’s normally there’s a charge. I wrote a bestselling book called Meant for More, How to Stop Secretly Struggling and Become a Force to be Reckoned With. So, for your… We’ll give them the little link, if you have the link below, we’ll give them the link but there’s an actual special link where they can get it for free. And so-
Melinda Wittstock: Oh, fantastic.
Mia Hewett: Yeah.
Melinda Wittstock: That’s very generous of you and thank you so much for putting on your wings and flying with us today.
Mia Hewett: Awesome. It’s so great to be here.