495 Steffani LeFevour:
On our Mentoring Minisode of Wings of Inspired Business … we talk about why all success in business begins with a solid foundation …including a morning routine that puts you in an inspired state of being so you can optimize your day. That way you can handle any challenges life throws your way … even now in the midst of Coronavirus.
It’s customizing a morning routine with the things that really fill you up and get you in the right state so that you’re feeling so good and can handle any of the challenges that the day might throw your way, so, the things like meditation or affirmations or music or gratitude is a huge one that I think everyone can instill, some of those high performance habits.
Here with us today to provide her insights and inspiration is …
Steffani is a Happiness coach, a bestselling author, and a personal growth junkie. She’s passionate about coaching people to live an optimum life, and she’s helped thousands of people master their mindset and transform their relationships so they can live happier on a daily basis. Today we talk about how to set up your morning so you are starting the day in gratitude and inspiration – and why your inner state dictates the outcome you will have.
Steffani says she wants to live in a world surrounded by ambitious, driven women who take their power back, step into their greatness, and who never say no to a dirty martini. Through her passion she’s helped hundreds of women shift their mindset, transform their relationships, and live more extraordinary lives they ever dreamed possible.
As a happiness coach, she’s studied human potential and has been in the business of self-improvement for over 25 years. After becoming a mom to Jack and Zoe she had a major life shift. She realized she needed to massively transform what happiness looked like through this new lens of being a parent and create a new custom designed road map to success.
This new journey has led her to work on projects with many transformational leaders like, Oprah Winfrey, Dr. Shefali, and Neale Donald Walsh all while never missing one of her sons’ hockey games.
When she’s not chasing after her 2 kids, you can find her posting real raw mom moments in her Badass Mom Society Facebook group.
Melinda Wittstock: Steffani, welcome to Wings.
Steffani LeFevour: Thank you. Thanks for having me.
Melinda Wittstock: I’m excited to know what is inspiring you. What’s lighting you up right now?
Steffani LeFevour: What’s lighting me up is accountability, high performance habits, all of these things that I have used to, I guess, enhance my business and teaching them because I love teaching that which I love to learn. It helps me grow, and so I really love helping other women grow with new high-performance habits.
Melinda Wittstock: Give me some example of what are some of the high-performance habits that are working really well for you right now.
Steffani LeFevour: Doing a really powerful morning routine. I know it’s been talked about, and every male coach speaks of it, but I don’t think enough female coaches, especially women with children, talk about having a morning routine that really sets them up for success, that creates the right state every morning.
Steffani LeFevour: [inaudible 00:01:29] custom way to do it. I think it’s designing what’s right for you, because I could have a one-hour morning routine that doesn’t work at all for a mom with a six-month-old baby, because of the age that my kids are at, et cetera.
Steffani LeFevour: It’s customizing a morning routine with the things that really fill you up and get you in the right state so that you’re feeling so good and can handle any of the challenges that the day might throw your way, so, the things like meditation or affirmations or music or gratitude is a huge one that I think everyone can instill, some of those high performance habits. I don’t think we recognize them as really habits that we need to fill into our lives as seriously as we should.
Melinda Wittstock: It’s vital. I know my morning routine has been revolutionary for me, but it’s also changed with different contextual circumstances, like, I’m traveling a lot and so it’s slightly different when I’m traveling, and then we got a new puppy and so, recently with the puppy, I couldn’t quietly meditate before getting up.
Melinda Wittstock: I had to take Auggie out to go to the bathroom, right?
Steffani LeFevour: Exactly, so being flexible about it, but what’s ideal for now is what I always like to teach people. Ideal for now, with Auggie in your life.
Melinda Wittstock: Exactly, and that’s exactly right. What are some of the challenges that you are facing, Steffani, in your life or your business right now, or perhaps something that you overcame that was really, really hard at the time but you look back on and think, oh, God, thank God for that challenge, thank God for that issue?
Steffani LeFevour: I think it’s always been a challenge for me to surround myself with the right people to really up my game. I am really a loyalist at heart and so when I meet someone it’s like they are friends for life and blood, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that, but I did start to see, as I evolved, that my peers and my tribe and my community need to evolve, too, because if I’m always going to up my game and want to be an A-player and be the best that I can be, I need to keep surrounding myself with people who are working in that arena, as well.
Steffani LeFevour: A challenge was that I kept losing people out of my orbit. I kept thinking, “No, no, no, I need to back myself up and stay in that orbit with those people,” but that’s really not what I found led to my highest and best self.
Steffani LeFevour: It was constantly evolving my tribe and surrounding myself with the people that were being more and doing more and having more so that I could keep feeding that part of my soul that wanted that, as well. It’s a great lesson for me over the last couple years.
Melinda Wittstock: Yeah, business and in life. It really is about our relationship at the end of the day. Not only our relationship with other people but with ourselves. I’ve read so many times now that we’re really … The best we are is the kind of median of the five closest people to us. If you’re around toxic people, my goodness, it’s not going to bode so well.
Steffani LeFevour: It needs to be forever evolving, forever evolving.
Melinda Wittstock: Absolutely right. Let’s get into the mentoring part of our minisode, and that is your top three go to pieces of advice for female founders and entrepreneurs. What have you learned along the way, Steffani, that you wish maybe your younger self knew or your top three tips?
Steffani LeFevour: Top three, first tip would be this thing I share that’s the formula for creating a new reality. I found that a lot, I was always focusing on strategy, strategy and hustle, hustle, hustle, do, do, do, which is, entrepreneurs, is kind of the first thing we go to.
Steffani LeFevour: What I learned years ago was that I needed to put my state first, meaning my morning routine and how I prime myself, then I needed to put my thoughts next, my story, the things I was thinking and saying, and then the strategies work. Then, the formula that I wish I was taught or given a long time ago is S plus S plus SR, which is your state plus your story, plus your strategy, equals your reality, not your strategy first.
Steffani LeFevour: If the strategy’s not working, reverse engineer it and look for your state first.
Melinda Wittstock: I love that. State plus story …
Steffani LeFevour: Plus, strategy.
Melinda Wittstock: Right, yeah. I love it. What’s nice is that comes more from the inside, from within, where, actually, the power truly is. Yeah, that’s nice.
Steffani LeFevour: [crosstalk 00:06:24] have more of the intuition and the guidance that the strategy [inaudible 00:06:30] be different, so state and story aligned with what you ideally want helps change the strategy and everything flows a lot easier.
Melinda Wittstock: Absolutely, okay. What’s number two?
Steffani LeFevour: Number two, I really wish I had been taught to build a stronger foundation. As a self-starter entrepreneur, I’ve started a couple businesses and always had that heart of an entrepreneur, and it was like, grow business, grow money. I also always looked in growing my relationships and I didn’t look at my foundation of growing myself first.
Steffani LeFevour: Growing, what I mean by that is my health and fitness, my thoughts, my story, my emotions, how I feel, where my heart is at, my spiritual connection, my character traits and values and who I’m showing up as in the world.
Steffani LeFevour: I now separate it into those six categories [inaudible 00:07:30] personal life, and I always focus on those first, because you can’t build a business and relationships and financial freedom and a quality of life on top of a weak foundation. Having a strong foundation is essential to having a really successful life and, quote, unquote, having it all, in whatever way you determine it all to be.
Melinda Wittstock: Absolutely, well said. Okay, number three.
Steffani LeFevour: Number three, I wish I had become more masterful at outsourcing, at outsourcing everything that is not in my [inaudible 00:08:12] genius and my unique ability, and not only as entrepreneur, like getting a VA and outsourcing your blog posting or your social stuff or things like that. Outsourcing even as a parent, like outsourcing those things that I don’t love to do and that are not in my [inaudible 00:08:29] gives me the most happiness.
Steffani LeFevour: I look really at what drains me and what energizes me and I outsource anything that drains me and I do myself the things that energize me.
Melinda Wittstock: I say this to so many women in business, what is the actual cost of your time, like the value of your time, if you’re growing a new revenue stream or a new strategic partner or figuring out something, some new intellectual property or something. Maybe your hourly rate is $1,000 an hour. Maybe it’s $10,000 an hour. It’s a huge value to your business, or you could do the laundry.
Steffani LeFevour: Yes, exactly.
Melinda Wittstock: Because, thinking like an owner, when you make that transition, it’s so, so important. Steffani, I know you have some really, really lovely, generous gifts for people today including a quiz, and also your book. I want you to make sure that everybody knows how to get your book and find you and work with you.
Steffani LeFevour: Great. You can get my book on badassmombook.com and you just pay for shipping. It’s a book that I wrote to help mom with all of these things. It talks about outsourcing and the creating your new reality formula and so much more. This quiz, I really love, it’s bestlifequiz.com.
Steffani LeFevour: I created this quiz to really help people see what is holding them back from living their best life. I worked really hard on it, so it’s really a self-diagnostic. Once you get your results, before you get your results, you’re going to see, wow, those things I’m not doing or these are areas of my life that [inaudible 00:10:30] improve, so I really love the quiz, bestlifequiz.com.
Melinda Wittstock: Fantastic. Thank you so much for putting on your wings and flying with us.
Steffani LeFevour: Thank you, I loved it.